What would be wrong with a husband giving up what he wants for no other reason but to make his wife happy? Isn’t it supposed to be a husband’s lifelong commitment to try to make his wife happy even if it means denying himself? Isn’t that what the Bible meant by:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
It is said "You can`t control your emotions... just your actions". Sadness is an emotion … being bitter and resentful are actions. The Bible says:
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32Bitterness and resentment are poisons that destroy our lives. We have all been hurt or caused hurt to someone else. Yes, it hurts very badly, so we want to retaliate and hurt them for hurting us. What we usually end up doing is hurting someone else because of the discretion of another who had nothing to do with hurting us. As we all know, “hurt people hurt other people.”
Sadly, we usually become the thing we hate in someone else if we don’t forgive and let go of bitterness and resentment. We have been cheated on so we cheat on someone else; we have been abused, so we abuse others. When we are in bitterness, we move over into hate, which is akin to a heart to murder someone out of anger.
We must not live our life scarred, or playing victim. What is most important is that we judge ourselves and make the necessary corrections about ourselves. Pain is 90% self-inflicted. We have to always check our motives for wanting people in our life and ask ourselves if these motives are healthy. Even when our motives are pure we have to first make sure we are emotionally healthy enough to have a relationship. We have to first, heal from past pain and unresolved issues. Only then can we learn to be happy alone and love self before we can love anyone else.
God has given us the authority to set ourselves free and release ourselves from bitterness and pain. We mustn't allow injustices of other people to cause us to miss out on God’s best for our life. Walking around angry and bitter about who has hurt us causes us to live that pain daily. As long as we are bitter we will repeal happiness and peace in our life.
